4 Love wisdom like a sister;
make insight a beloved member of your family.
5 Let them protect you from an affair with an immoral woman,
from listening to the flattery of a promiscuous woman.
Here we go again, another warning on sexual immorality from proverbs. Looks like God considers this a pretty important topic. Here’s a tip, if God believes something bears repeating, pay attention.
Let’s approach this from a different point of view though. Increasingly, sex sins are becoming a costly black stain on our society, while being held up as the right thing to do. Why does a culture edify a thing that hurts it so much? Even many churches have gone very liberal with interpretations of God’s laws regarding sex. Christ’s teachings were pretty clear, but you have many people excusing adultery as just watching a “little porn”. Young men and women are taught from an early age that being intimate with one another has virtually no consequences, and is good for finding your identity. The burden is often put upon the church to tell people what’s so bad about a little carefree sex.
There are many obvious (at least they seem obvious to me) reasons to abstain from these types of sin, but what about real reasons for disobeying God’s commandment? See we are going about it all wrong. We believe in God, so followers of Christ should be asking our culture just why we should disobey Him. Christians who choose to remain virgins until marriage, faithful to their spouse in marriage, and who refuse to look at pornography are often mocked. Why is this? What do they miss out on?
Let me be transparent, I have committed sensual sins. I have looked at pornography, and didn’t wait until marriage to have sex. I fell for the worldview just like so many others have. I don’t say this to brag, and actually am full of regret because of it. The one good thing that came out of my sin is that I can speak honestly to the truth that there isn’t some kind of advantage to being disobedient to God in this area. It doesn’t make life more exciting to let your flesh take over. Sure it feels good for a moment, but like any other addiction; the more you do it, the more you need to do it. Whether porn, or premarital sex; both lead to more of the same. If/when that relationship ends, you are left with ties to that person that do more harm than good (especially when there isn’t any good to that). Add that in to what happens when you finally meet your spouse, and bring the emotional baggage of a former sexual relationship (or relationships), you end up with a lot more than you originally bargained for.
The point here is that God does know better for us than we do. Yes He still loves us, and is willing to forgive, when we have sinned. There is however, a reason for Him to create His laws in the first place. He isn’t just a spoiled king on a throne, and Jesus wasn’t just a man who liked to kill a good time. God is our Father and Creator. He loves us more than we can even understand. The Lord only wants what is best for us. At least think of the pros and cons when making decisions on this, as thinking only of what your flesh desires (and society encourages) is not the best policy.