Proverbs 5 Advice on Sex

Proverbs 5 is pretty much a lesson teaching about sexual immorality. The teacher here goes to great lengths to show the error in chasing after lust. Understand though, this isn’t just about men not falling for immoral women, but also women not falling for those types of men. See, being sexually immoral sounds great, and the world tells us it is. Simply put, that isn’t true. In the end, like it or not, being promiscuous is a risk that isn’t really worth the reward.

3 For the lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey,
and her mouth is smoother than oil.
4 But in the end she is as bitter as poison,
as dangerous as a double-edged sword.
5 Her feet go down to death;
her steps lead straight to the grave.[a]
6 For she cares nothing about the path to life.
She staggers down a crooked trail and doesn’t realize it.

It goes on to explain the high cost of following fleshly desires. You see here the results, but what are the rewards, and are they worth it? A moment’s pleasure to lose your honor and self-respect? Ask yourself, has having sex with someone ever, in history, gained someone’s permanent love? Of course not. What’s worse, this behavior tends to become a pattern and drowns your life with consequences.

8 Stay away from her!
Don’t go near the door of her house!
9 If you do, you will lose your honor
and will lose to merciless people all you have achieved.
10 Strangers will consume your wealth,
and someone else will enjoy the fruit of your labor.
11 In the end you will groan in anguish
when disease consumes your body.

Remember however, God is not against sex. You have desires for a reason. Proverbs gives us an answer to our fleshly problem. A committed marriage provides sexual release as well. This relationship is meant to be between a man and his wife. We are supposed to fulfill one another. Pay attention to the language scripture uses, and you tell me, is God against pleasure?

15 Drink water from your own well— share your love only with your wife.[b] 16 Why spill the water of your springs in the streets, having sex with just anyone?[c] 17 You should reserve it for yourselves. Never share it with strangers.

18 Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love. 20 Why be captivated, my son, by an immoral woman, or fondle the breasts of a promiscuous woman?

Lastly, do not fool yourself. The Lord knows what we do. He knows if we are obedient to His commands. If you sin, do not think you can hide it, do not think there will be no penalty, do not think that the Lord will “understand”. Neither will your future spouse.

21 For the Lord sees clearly what a man does,
examining every path he takes.
22 An evil man is held captive by his own sins;
they are ropes that catch and hold him.
23 He will die for lack of self-control;
he will be lost because of his great foolishness.


About Erik Pullum

Married and parent to three wonderful children. I believe that Christianity is a lifestyle that you are supposed to live everyday, not just when it is convenient.
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